Can time heal a broken heart?

I for myself can't answer this question with a clear 'yes!'. My first boyfriend and I were in a relationship for about a year and now it is already  3 years over. Still my heart is aching anytime I see him. The first year after the break up I couldn't even look at him, because it made me cry.
Sometimes I'm sad about the break up of a friendship with someone I could talk to about anything. The person suddenly stopped being carrying and didn't put any effort into being good friends.
I guess everybody could add something to this list of people we love and miss. People, we feel we need to make our life perfect. People, who obviously don't need us to be happy.

So will this broken hearted state of being ever change? I think time doesn't heal, but for sure teaches us a lot about life and ourselves..It teaches everyone of us how to handle the pain in a way, that's best for you. Don't freak out, if life sometimes throws you back where you already were once: In the bleeding area of your heart. ..Just try to survive the moment and go on. You are not alone.

Everybody feels pain. Our hearts are villages with houses full and empty. We still love the empty houses with their wild gardens and the smell of our beloved person in it. But we are heroes, because we can live on. I like to let god's grace be a sticking plaster for the ache inside of me.

Lots of Love xoxo

Don't let them define who you are!

The other day I talked to a girl, who said, she once was bullied in school for being ''different''. That made her lose her self-confidence and all along think about how ''different'' she is.
Nowadays nobody is bullying her anymore. She found a lot of great friends and is very beautiful and self-confident. It was hard to believe her story about being different. My answer to it was: ''At the age of 14 everyone is 'different'''.

There are a million stories like this. You could exchange the ''being different'' with being ugly, fat, thin, stupid, short, shy etc.

My answer to bullying is not ''Stop bullying!", because at some age and in some periods of life  it is normal and we all came or will come across this topic. My answer is:

- Stretch your middle finger to the world, to the world! ;-p -

We often enough take it to serious, when someone calls us something. We let ourselves define by what other people think about ourselves..If everybody thinks you are to fat, you start to think you are. 

I ask myself: Why?

What do you have from defining yourself through peoples eyes and words? Only disadvantages.

Sometimes people told me I'm naive. One day I started to believe them and with feeling naive I also got a feeling of being stupid. My self esteem shrunk and I began to see myself in a negative light. It even made me feel to fat and not beautiful or unique enough. Eventually my communicative state of mind switched into shyness.

Then I grew older and realized how self-destructive this was. I picked up the broken pieces of my self-confidence and glued them back together. A beautiful time of my life began. I tell myself everyday: ''You are beautiful, smart, simply awesome. You have a great body, mind and soul. You are unique, blessed, talented and loved. There is no other you that is THAT hilarious awesome and no other you at all!''

And guess what? I really believe I am and therefore everyone else believes it, too ;-) 

Surround yourself with positive energy and a positive attitude about yourself and life and it will surely affect your environment and especially the people around you! :-)

Have a great day.

Lots of Love xoxo